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The Art of Kissing
Kissing is one of the most intimate and romantic ways for two people to express love. It can be a moment of pure bliss, but it can also be awkward and uncomfortable if you don’t know what you’re doing. Whether you’re a novice in the art of kissing or an experienced lover, there are always ways to make it even more passionate. Below, we provide tips and tricks to turn a regular kiss into a kiss that transcends time. From the perfect setting to the perfect technique, these tips will help make your kissing experience even more pleasurable and special. So, if you are ready to take kissing to the next level, keep reading and you will be sure to set the mood for a magical night ahead.
Philematology- The Science of Kissing
Dr. Joy Davidson, a Seattle-based psychologist and clinical sexologist, explains that kissing is a form of sensual meditation. “It stops the buzz in your mind, it quells anxiety, and it heightens the experience of being present in the moment.” Kissing triggers your brain’s “pleasure center” to produce dopamine (responsible for feelings of euphoria), oxytocin aka the love hormone (responsible for creating sensations of attachment and connection) and serotonin (which can permanently imprint an amazing kiss into your memory). According to a University of Oxford study kissing reveals your partner’s DNA and subconsciously allows women to know if their partner will be a good match. Your lips have the most nerve endings of any region of your body. The average person spends roughly 20,000 minutes (14 days) in lip lock over the course of their life.
The Benefits of Kissing
The act of kissing uses up to 34 different facial muscles. Kissing will help boost collagen synthesis (resulting in younger, firmer-looking skin). A passionate kiss will burn around 6.4 calories per minute. This indicates that a half-hour kissing session burns the same number of calories as 25 minutes of jogging or swimming, depending on your fitness level. Kissing your lover releases neurotransmitters that alleviate tension and helps your mind relax. It has the potential to increase relationship pleasure. It dilates your blood vessels, which helps to lower your blood pressure. Kissing raises your heart rate, which dilates your blood vessels and helps lower your blood pressure. Kissing, according to some women, reduces period cramps by increasing endorphins, which reduces pain perception. (It would be remiss for me not to note that kissing can help cure headaches). Here’s an intriguing tidbit about the Middle Ages: Illiterate men would kiss the paper to sign a contract, giving the phrase “sealed with a kiss” its literal meaning.
Avoid These Mistakes
When you decide it’s time to kiss, there are a few things to avoid. First, be sure your partner wants to be kissed (no one likes having someone forced on them). Bad breath is the second thing you should avoid when kissing your sweetheart. Brush your teeth or have breath mints on hand if you smell like an ashtray or ate food with a lot of garlic or other unpleasant odors. Number three, avoid kissing your lover too hard, this can make them uncomfortable and ruin the moment. Remember your partner will let you know how they want to be kissed, so matching their intensity and rhythm is always a great strategy.
Preparing for a Romantic Kiss
Setting the mood is the first ingredient to make your kissing experience even more romantic. A handwritten note or text messages throughout the day will let her know your feelings and how much you look forward to seeing her. Create the perfect ambiance with soft lighting, scented candles, your favourite flowers, and music* to set the tone. Remember finding the right balance of cliches and romance is essential.
*Music is one of the most powerful triggers, imagine having your partner think of you and smile or blush when a song comes on.
The Perfect Kissing Technique
Be in the moment and allow her to feel the safety and power of your presence. Slowly run your fingertips up her arm and brush her hair behind her ear as you maintain eye contact to build anticipation. Her heartbeat will accelerate as her level of excitement rises, and the increased blood flow will cause her lips to swell. Smile with your eyes and match her breathing as you move your hand to her lower back and bring your bodies closer. When the emotional intimacy is palpable, tell her you want to kiss her and get her consent. Start by giving her a slow, gentle kiss that lingers for a few seconds.
Bonus tip: If you know her erogenous zones, include them in your sensuous touching before and during the kiss.
What To Do After The Kiss
Words of appreciation spoken in the moment will make your partner feel loved and will become firmly engrained in their thoughts. Instead of just pulling away, look your partner in the eyes and softly run your fingertips over their lips or cheek. If she likes having her hair played with, run your hand just under their jawline and delicately massage their ear lobe with your thumb while you run your fingers through their hair. If you are saying goodbye for the evening, run your hands over their skin that has turned to braille and give them a big hug. Give her a tender kiss on the cheek or forehead and as your fingertips glide off the tip of her fingers you will be able to feel the magnetic pull between your bodies. This will build anticipation and excitement for your next date.
Conclusion
There are several ways to enhance the sensuality of your kiss. Playful teasing. Kissing should be like dancing; you should find a natural rhythm and gradually increase the intensity (the delicate balance between total surrender and resistance). Use show and tell by performing the move on your partner and asking them to replicate it.